Commit and unlock your potential
If you were forced to take action to unleash your potential, where would you start?
In this edited extract from his new book which is due to be published this week, former all-Ireland winning footballer and motivational coach Enda McNulty suggests commitment is what it takes to achieve real success.
Commit and Unlock your Full Potential
Throughout my life I’ve always been lucky to be surrounded by people who were willing to help me improve, starting with my mum and dad and the people I met through football.
This is why I believe that the best way to help you shift from a fixed to a growth mindset is to get help. However, if you can’t hire and coach or find someone who is willing to coach you for free, you can coach yourself. People have achieved astonishing things on nothing but their own resources.
Self-coaching begins with facing the truth.
Most of us don’t have the stomach for this. We don’t want to stand in front of a full length mirror and declare the truth of who we are and where we are. For instance:
‘I don’t really believe in myself.’
‘I’m living an empty life.’
‘I’m petrified at the thought of doing anything different.’
But this is what you need to do. You stand and you ace yourself and state the truth.
But don’t just state it. Write it down.
Pour out all of your thoughts and ideas about yourself – every detail, no matter how unpalatable.
Face yourself naked.
If you can’t get a coach, ask yourself the hard questions that a coach would ask.
Why am I not getting the opportunities I think I deserve?
If I continue to have the way I am, what are the consequences?
How committed am I to being the best I can be?
Do I want to change? Honestly?
In what areas of my life am I accepting mediocrity?
When was the last time I pushed myself out of my comfort zone?
Am I willing to make sacrifices to unlock my potential?
What is the biggest think I am afraid of?
Am I growth oriented in all aspects of my life?
What’s the single biggest thing holding me back?
Do I spend any time planning my week?
Do I work hard enough?
Am I eating right?
Am I getting enough exercise?
Do I spend any time reading?
Is my mindset helping me to achieve my potential every day? Or is it stopping me doing do?
Work hard at this. Commit to doing it thoroughly. Ask yourself intelligent, constructive, challenging questions. Questions that will turn you to face the full reality of your life and your lifestyle.
How you think informs your behaviour
By dissecting all the things that you’ve done – and those you haven’t – you get an understanding of how you think and how that thinking informs your behaviour. By getting down to the core – by analysing your thinking – you can identify where your mindset is at.
Is it a mindset that allows you to excel? Or is it a mindset that inhibits you?
Even if you are working on your own to develop your mindset, you can benefit from the insights of those around you. Be selective – ask different people to critique different things.
Feedback is a rich resource for someone with a growth mindset. Never, ever think of criticism as attack; think of it as the means by which you can grow, can become more intelligent, more talented than you are.
Don’t pull down the shutters against feedback. Reflect on it, dissect it, see what you can use.
Edited extract from Commit, Make your Mind and Body Stronger and Unlock your Full Potential by Enda McNulty, published by Penguin Ireland on 5th January priced €21.